Infertility: Emotional and Social Concerns
Infertility is a major life crisis for many couples. It may affect self-esteem, body image, sexual identity, life goals, and sexual relations. When faced with the possibility or diagnosis of infertility, you may experience a broad range of emotions, including:
- Initial disbelief and denial followed by anger and grief.
- Loss of control.
- Guilt and blame. Finding out that one partner is infertile can place strain on a relationship.
- Increased stress, particularly if treatment requires frequent testing and intercourse on a schedule.
- Monthly cycles of hopeful anticipation followed by depression when menstruation begins.
- Feelings of isolation. A desire for privacy may isolate a couple from support systems such as friends and family during a time of great stress. Counseling and infertility support groups provide vital assistance for many couples.
Social exchanges and situations may be painful when you see others with babies or are asked about your plans for having children. Having family members who are expecting children may contribute to your feelings of stress, as may parents wanting grandchildren to continue the family lineage.
When you have a long-term health problem, you may feel alone, confused, or scared. But you are not alone. Other people are going through the same thing you are and know how you feel.
Talking with others about your feelings can help you feel better.
- Family and friends: Family and friends can help you cope by giving you comfort and encouragement.
- Counseling: Professional counseling can help you cope with situations that interfere with your life and cause stress. Counseling can help you understand and deal with your illness.
- Your doctor: Find a doctor you trust and feel comfortable with. Be open and honest about your fears and concerns. Your doctor can help you get the right medical treatments, including counseling.
- Spiritual or religious groups: Spiritual or religious groups can provide comfort and may be able to help you find counseling or other social support services.
- Social groups: Social groups can help you meet new people and get involved in activities you enjoy.
- Community support groups: In a support group, you can talk to others who have dealt with the same problems or illness as you. You can encourage one another and learn ways of coping with tough emotions.
Find a support group
Look for a support group that works for you. Ask yourself if you prefer structure and would like a group leader, or if you would like a less formal group. Do you prefer face-to-face meetings, or do you feel more secure in Internet chat rooms or forums?
- Ask your doctor, counselor, or other health professional for suggestions.
- Contact your local church, mosque, synagogue, or other religious group.
- Ask your family and friends.
- Ask people who have the same condition.
- Contact a city, state, or national group that provides support for the condition. Your library, community center, or phone book may have a list of these groups.
- Use the Internet. Forums and blogs let you read messages from others and leave your own messages. You can exchange stories, vent your frustrations, and ask and answer questions.
Current as of: June 16, 2021
Author: Healthwise Staff
Kathleen Romito MD - Family Medicine
Adam Husney MD - Family Medicine
Femi Olatunbosun MB, FRCSC - Obstetrics and Gynecology